Diagram 1 is a hydrogen atom
Key: += the up quark with +2/3 charge             
        -= the down quark with -1/3 charge
        e=the electron -1 charge
        0=is potential and wanting negative charge of an atom
        ~=gluon
        x= repel of any more elctrons
Diagram 1  (HYDROGEN)
                     e          0
                      (+)  (+)
                         (-)
                           x
What i'm attempting to illistrate in the bad text diagram above is the way 
the two up quark in a proton wants two elctrons instead just one which only 
its charge can handle.   
Diagram 2  (HELIUM)
                      e
                    (+)
                  (+)(-)
                  ~      ~
                (-)      (+) 
             (+) (-)~(+)(-) 
              e                x
As you can see in the abouve diagram helium atoms only have one neutron in 
its neuclus (Nutron being hadron with two negative one positive).   The 
charge of the two proton gives it a positive 2 charge and the outside quarks 
that are not being used in the "gluon chain" [ (+)~(-) ]  are making the 
valence.   As we all no helium is a noble gas meaning it no longer wants 
anymore electrons and thats because its   outside quarks [ the two (+) and 
the one (-)]  have the max charge this atom is omitting which is a charge of 
2 which is being taken by two elctrons.  As an extra bonus for this atom it 
has a (-) which is causing a slight push to other electrons since electrons 
are negative as well.
Basicly I beleive I have figured out why and how valences exsist and work... 
somthing to this point I haven't heard a good explination except "its just 
there".  Now one could minipulate atoms more easily and do it on paper first 
before spending money for the experiment!
I'd like your comments and what you've been told why atoms have these specail 
electrovalences.   I do beleive I'm on to somthing and would like your 
comments and questions... by the way I do have some 3D quick animation 
grafics that I could send.   
My idea is if we can control the small things we can control the very basics 
of matter which is gravity itsself.